At almost 35 weeks pregnant, I've heard all of the comments out there.
"You are HOW far along?"
"Oh wow...."
"Any day now - right?"
"You are only having 1? Are you sure?"
"How many are you having?"
"Maybe the second one is hiding."
"My boss is having twins and you are way bigger than she is"
... and many, many more....
And then this morning we were at story time and another pregnant mom and I were talking....
her - "You are due when?"
me - "October 30. About 5 more weeks"
her - "Oh, I am due November 30. But I am the opposite than you. I'm so small that most people still look at me and wonder is she or isn't she?"
(Not the case. She was obviously pregnant)
Here is the deal. Yes, I am fully aware of the fact that I am large. I am not blind and I do own a mirror. And I am a-ok with this. I was equally as large with my first pregnancy and I had a big, healthy baby - 9.3 lb / 21.5" long. Chances are, this baby is going to also be quite large. But, I don't understand why people feel the need to make awkward jokes at my expense. Most of the time I end up laughing it off, but when these comments are happening every single day, I get annoyed.
You are NOT the first person to laugh and say "maybe the second baby is just hiding!" That comment was not too funny the first time and it is definitely not funny the 100th time.
If you want to know how to talk to a pregnant lady, go read what
Anne has to say about this subject. She was much more eloquent that I was.
September 21, 2011 - 34 weeks