“you know, your life is never going to be normal again…” Really? Who is it that decides what is normal?
“you are never going to be skinny again.” Watch me. I have the will power and determination of a crazy woman.
“you will never buy anything for yourself again” They must not know me very well to begin with.
“you wont be able to do __x__ with a baby” I have a friend that made a cross country trip with a 10 day old. The mom looked wonderful and the baby was great. Anything is possible.
“you are crazy for thinking you can go see Britney Spears 9 days after your due date” Who cares? I love the gal. And if I don't go see her, it is not because I just had a baby.... it will be because the tickets are too $$$.
And what I find most humorous of all is when people that have never had kids give you this advice. Kind of ironic. Listen up peeps, I am fully aware that our life is going to change, but we are excited about it. Since when did change become associated with being a bad thing?
And on a shopping note… I just got these 2 dresses. Word to the wise – Old Navy.com has MUCH better things than in the store. Same with Target.com. (I even ordered a bridesmaid dress from target.com – yes, I am going to be in a wedding 2 weeks before my due date.)
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Amen! Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something or your life is forever changed because of a child. Your life will be different, yes, but children don't stop the world. On the other hand, you can always use your child as an excuse..."Oh, I can't, Little Johnny can't be up that late"...or "Little Johnny isn't feeling well, I would hate to get everyone sick." So it's a win/win!
In my experience, any of the things that I've "given up" have happened so naturally once Anna came along that I hardly notice until I am talking with my single/childless friends. I have no sense of being a martyr because I don't sleep in as long or stay out as late or drink as many glasses of wine. There is a new joy, and certainly a new and much-improved normal, that comes with having a baby.
And of course I am proof that you CAN lose all the weight, travel (even to Europe!) and even buy yourself things once in awhile!
Think of this as good practice for deflecting all of the "helpful advice" you will be receiving once that precious baby is here :)
Those dresses look awesome! I really love the print on the second one. Shabby Apple has a line called Mama Apple that has really cute preggo dresses if you're in the market for more. :)
Good attitude ... you decide if the change is a good one or not. The best thing I could have ever done was make everything positive & fabulous! It made the hard times more fun. :)
I still buy myself stuff ... maybe if I had a bunch of kids I wouldn't but 1 doesn't change life THAT much!
p.s. what boots are you looking for - I just noticed your blog description says Jcrew 8.5 black boots. DownEast had some cute knee high Jcrew black boots 8.5 for $39. I can always check for you & send you a picture text.
Look at how cute they are! You will be stunning :)
you go girl! I hated comments like that too! Looking back at it, I really don't think in the last 4 months Chris and I have 'missed' out on anything because we have Caden. We are even going skiing in three weeks and leaving Caden with the grandparents! In fact our life has become easier since we had him because sooooo many people want to help you. And I am back to my normal weight, only 4 months later, I just have to tone....And I still buy lots of stuff for me! :) You keep talking, all those others are just jealous! HA!
Love your blog! People are so RUDE with their comments about how YOUR life is going to be. I found that people felt the need to tell what I should/shouldn't do with my wedding and I see people being EVEN worse about kids. Good luck and way to stick up for yourself!
I have the second dress and LOVE it. It is lovely in person! People seem to love scaring new mums to be...I hope you have a lovely time at Britney Spears!
I am right there with you! I am so tired of people and their unwanted advice!
I love both of thos dresses! Thank you so much for sharing, I have been looking for some cute dresses.
And you are so right about Old Navy- they never get anything new in and the maternity section is not being restocked at all! I'll try my luck on-line.
cute dresses! you better take tons of pics at that britney concert!
Most people just don't know what to say, so they say the wrong thing. I doubt anyone means it maliciously...or maybe they're envious? Anyway, life will change and nothing anyone says to you can prepare you for the ups and downs of parenthood. No one can properly describe the newfound feelings of beyond love you feel for this new little person.
My only advice is to rest and rest and rest before the baby comes and let people help you when they ask.
Good for you!!!! Never let anyone else tell you what is right or how to live your life!!! You've got a good head on your shoulders and you'll figure it all out!!
Those dresses are too cute! I cannot believe that people would tell you such horrid things! I am glad to hear that you are just brushing it off!
I totally agree with you. It gets old fast.
ugh! i can totally relate. i'm so tired of the NEGATIVE advice and opinions. a baby is a huge deal, but it's not going to change everything about your life and you don't have to lose your identity. i'm sure i'll have a similar post in a couple of months as this pregnancy progresses.
let's get an update on how you're feeling and what's going on!
What cute dresses. And CONGRATULATIONS! I'm not sure why people feel the need to give unwanted advice.
Enjoy this amazing time!
HG & I were just talking about that...we've been getting a lot of the same advice, but like you...we're ignoring it!!! ;-) Love the dresses!!!
FABULOUS!!!!
Of course life changes, but, like you said, since when is that a bad thing? You can do anything!--Even with kids! My mom was an amazing woman and I loved being her daughter because she led a great life, and I got to tag along, if you will. You'll be a kick a** mom!
people can be such downers! I don't know why they try to bring others down with them- maybe it makes them feel better about themselves- I know how you feel- I just started calling people out on it because I have zero patience. I will say stuff like- why would you show someone who is 8+ months pregnant, pictures of people who have smaller bellies? That isn't very nice. Then they just get embarrassed and wonder why they were doing that in the first place!
plus it shuts them up in the future.
Your new dresses are so cute! I hope you have a Happy Holiday!
Ack, what is wrong with people? I was just telling my husband that when we have kids I'm still going to take care of myself. I feel like I will be a better mother that way. It's not selfish at all.
I love the dresses and the Rafe shoes you picked up - great score!
Hey girl! Haven't checked your blog in a while but I wanted to stop in! Of course your life will change some but it will be even better than you ever imagined! I'm excited for you and you will bounce back, wear your favorite jeans, do fun stuff, do fun stuff with your baby, and be a great mother! Good luck with everything! Can't wait to see pictures!
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